Higher Self of Carolyn Gervais

                               IMPRINTING YOUR CHILDREN FOR THE NEW EARTH

How parents and adults imprint their children in today’s world is even more critical in the new energy than in the old.   Any type of imprinting has a much deeper affect on the children with the new DNA, in that they can either open more on a heart level or become rebellious and even violent towards society when the imprinting damages their self- perception.

Too many parents do not realize how easily they imprint their children with their feelings and emotions.  A lot of parents still believe that because an infant or baby does not understand words, it is perfectly alright for the adults to say anything they want in their toddler’s or infant's presence and it won’t have an affect on them. 

We would like to present what we want to impart today, in a story.  The story begins with a middle aged woman named Sarah and her relationship with her daughter-in-law Marne...

It was years before Sarah’s son and Marne conceived a child.  Chad was Sarah’s only biological child and it had been a real challenge for her to accept that there was a good chance she would never be a grandmother.  Finally after ten years of praying and waiting it happened .   Marne and Chad were pregnant, as you would say.  The tremendous joy and surprise was a prayer that was finally granted for Sarah and she was overcome with emotion.  

Sarah and Marne were very close for years before the pregnancy and during the pregnancy.  Marne often confided in Sarah whenever she had a spiritual or personal question.  Her questions included worries about her pregnancy.  

Sarah was not your average person, for she had spent most of her life searching and studying metaphysical philosophy in all its aspects.   Her childhood was very difficult and abusive and it left its painful imprint on how she perceived herself in the world.  So at the age of seventeen, Sarah began her non-religious search for answers as to why humans were created so that she could understand and learn how to accept her own human existence… and through that understanding do what she came to Earth to do.  

Sarah also wanted to teach her son everything she learned in her search for truth so that his life would be easier than hers had been.   So she gradually instilled her knowledge in Chad from the time he was two years of age.  Sarah knew intuitively that she could imprint spiritual truths into her child’s subconscious when he was asleep and awake.  Of course, she put her knowledge into the simplest terminology possible when she spoke to her child.

And now Chad was thirty-nine and Sarah was going to be a grandmother, what a thrill.  But immediately after her grandson, Andrew, was born, Marne’s feelings changed toward Sarah, for no apparent reason.   

Though Sarah and Chad lived in different states, she had no problem picking up on Marne’s fear towards her.  Sarah knew about Marne’s negative imprinting with her mother, when she was a child and because of it, Marne feared Andrew would grow to love grandma more than her.   Every time Sarah would travel the three hundred miles to see Andrew, Marne was cold hearted, mean and distant to her.   But Sarah continued to treat Marne with respect and consideration when she was around her.   On the other hand, Chad wanted his mother to see Andrew as much as possible.   For two and a half years, Sarah dreaded being in her daughter-in-law’s presence because Marne’s energy was so demeaning and harsh.   But she so wanted to be a part of her grandson’s life that she was willing to endure Marne’s treatment time and time again.

Chad was blind to what was going on between his wife and mother for about eight months of Andrew’s life.   And he would often angrily reprimand his mother and tell her she was wrong about Marne’s feelings and say, “Mom you’re just too sensitive”. This was very hurtful and frustrating for Sarah.  Finally, Chad began to see that Marne was in fact threatened by his mother’s visits, even though when he confronted her she denied it.

So by the time Andrew was almost a year old, Sarah felt a need to write Marne a letter so that they could finally find a way to resolve Marne’s fears and have a loving relationship again.  This is what she said in that letter………

Do you remember Marne our recent phone conversation when I called you to try and get you to open up and tell me what I have done to deserve your lack of respect?   You lashed out at me and said that your family had raised you to respect your elders and that I had failed at that with Chad.  That was so unfair of you Marne because you were not there when I was raising Chad.  You don’t know what challenges I had being a single parent.   Did you know that Chad became my reason for living once I found out I was pregnant at the age of eighteen.  Raising Chad was the most wonderful of all jobs that God gave me but also the hardest and the most painful. 

I so wanted Chad’s life to be easier than mine.  That’s why I went on a spiritual quest for truth…so I could give my son an understanding about life that not enough children have.  Was I a perfect mother that did everything right?  No!  But my intent and love was pure, in that I wanted to give Chad a chance at happiness and fulfillment at a much younger age than most people.  My endless love for him and now for my grandson Andrew, continues to be the motivation that prompts me to spend my life learning and integrating the wisdom of the Masters, so when I do leave this Earth I will leave it in peace.  I will leave knowing I gave my son all I could give to help him to live life to the fullest degree.  And in doing so, Andrew too will benefit from what Chad has integrated through my search for truth. That is the legacy I want to leave when I pass.  

Believe me when I say Marne that I so understand what it is like to give birth to a child and love him so unconditionally that anything and everything I did was to assure his safety and well being.

I often dreamed when I was a little girl, that someday I would have a son who loved me as much as I loved him.   All mothers want that from their child Marne.  And you have that from Andrew, whether you realize it or not. You as of yet, have no idea of all the challenges and pitfalls that are in store for you as Andrew grows into an adult.

Now I’d like to ask you if Chad has ever treated your mother the way you have been treating me.   I know the answer is no!  But if it were not, I would take Chad aside and tell him how unhealthy that is for everyone, especially Andrew. 

It is difficult to resent someone and still treat them with respect, I understand that.  So you might ask yourself how I am able to look you in the eye when I speak to you and treat you with respect, when you aren’t able to reciprocate.  It’s because I know who you really are underneath your feelings towards me.  I’ve seen the real you Marne.  I know you are an intelligent, good person with a kind loving heart when you aren’t feeling threatened. Though you have been treating me with disdain… I knew the minute I met you that you would be good for my son.  You are also a terrific mother Marne, don't doubt that.

It can take a long time for us humans to grow into who we really are as souls in human form.  I can tell you that life is not about carrying resentment and anger for someone for any amount of time, but sometimes fear smothers that knowing and we can’t seem to make it go away.  It takes time for the emotional body to catch up to what the mental body wants.  But communication can do so much if it is sincerely done with the intent to resolve and heal.

The Creative Force gives us free will to feel whatever way we choose to feel.   But it is our job to take responsibility for our choices, words and actions dear Marne, and how they affect others.

Though you are a very aware person in many ways, there are still a lot more experiences to come, that will help you to better understand human nature, relationships and love in all of its forms on Earth.  Age usually does play a part in the understanding of each of those.  Why?  Life progresses in ways that befit our present age and experiences.  That doesn’t mean age is the only aspect that increases one’s depth of understanding.  There is also the desire and willingness to understand beyond the depth of our present capacity by questioning and looking deeper and deeper into our soul for the true reasons we feel and believe the way we do about someone or something.  Answers come in all forms and ways that we are able to access through our present consciousness when a true intent is in place.  If an answer is only self-serving, it is not the true answer.

It’s important for parents to know that a baby is affected by its parent’s feelings, emotions and tone of voice as they grow.   Everything a child or baby sees, hears, tastes and feels is absorbed into their young brains, like a sponge absorbing water.  Andrew is taking each piece of input, including feelings he picks up through all his senses, into his new brain.   Each experience is a piece of data that Andrew will use to create a kind of puzzle picture, unique to himself… which will serve as a guide through his life.  Those puzzle pieces of information will become his imprinted foundation…this he will mix and add to with new incoming data and information that will attract various experiences and new ways to express himself as he moves through life. 

As a very small child I was deeply imprinted by the way my father treated his mother, who I loved dearly.  When he spoke to her there was always impatience and anger in his voice, even though she was a loving, good mother who only wanted to please him.  She would always fix him something to eat when at her house and give him the newspaper to read, while he ignored her attempts to talk to him.   He rarely, if ever thanked her.  Dad never hugged my grandmother or told her he loved her and to top it off, he always called her by her first name.   That is the ultimate slight to a mother.

It affected me deeply… it was painful to see my grandmother just take my dad’s verbal abuse.  Why did she?   She loved him unconditionally as most mothers do.   I lived every day of my childhood with my father’s abuse.  I knew intimately his facial expressions and gestures and the fear they could create in me. 

As an adult I came to realize that it is a frightened person who feels out of control… that uses force, anger, manipulation and denial to feel in control of life.

Imprinting is mental, emotional and physical programming, Marne.  Most of it takes place when we are children, through our role models such as parents, grandparents, siblings, teachers and other children.

All emotions and feelings, are not just physical reactions to stimuli…they are actual energy; they are actual energy frequencies that are emitted from one person to another, no matter how far the physical distance.  They are felt on conscious and unconscious levels whether we acknowledge them or not.   Children always feel what their parents are feeling.  So be careful with what you are feeling, doing and saying about me when I’m around or not.  It is your actions and the feelings behind those actions that a child absorbs.

In closing, I want to say that since Andrew is only barely a year old, you have yet to experience the full extent a mother will sacrifice because of the love for her ever growing child, no matter what age of the baby, child or adult.   It is important to realize that the love a child feels for his or her parents is different than the love a parent feels for their child…in that a parent’s love is often the most unconditional love on Earth.  Teens and young adults, more often than not… pull away from their parents’ control, either for a long time or until they mature.  After they reach a certain age, they usually realize they did not know as much as they thought they did when they were younger. That is when they usually for the first time, begin to value their parents’ knowledge and wisdom.

After several months, Sarah noticed a definite change in Marne’s behavior the next time she saw her. The resentment was gone and Sarah could feel Marne’s heart again.  The pure intent and heartfelt emotions that Sarah put into her letter did reach Marne on many levels.  And over time they surfaced and moved into her conscious mind.  When they finally moved to the heart level, they helped Marne to open to her own self awareness, where she came to terms with her fears about Sarah and resolved them in her own way.  That is an example of imprinting.

Can everyone be imprinted this way?   It depends on how susceptible the one receiving is to inner growth and how open they are on a heart and soul level.

Marne never mentioned to Sarah, that she received the letter.  But Chad told his mother, Marne read the letter and said to him that in spite of her feelings the letter made a lot of sense.

As far as Andrew, he now had a much better chance at being imprinted in a more positive way…by his strongest role models, his parents.  That kind of energy or imprinting would become part of the input data that gradually shaped Andrew’s beliefs as he grew into an adult.

Can anyone be a perfect parent you might ask?   No, no one can, but the more parents become aware of what they say and do in their child’s presence and work at imprinting their children in as many positive ways as possible, even with discipline... the more loving, secure, emotionally aware and confident their children will become, as they grow and mature into adults.

Let Your Light Be Bright Dear Ones,                                                                                                            Higher Self of Carolyn Gervais                                                                                                 awakeningyou.com

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