Okay, we all experience this. There just are people in our lives who always seem to find our weak spot and push our buttons.

These people can be complete strangers in the traffic, the woman who brings your newspaper, could be a co-worker, your boss, or people closer to you like your spouse or your children.

They all have one thing in common: They push your buttons and just know how to 'get to you.'

Here comes the part where I have to say that they give you a great gift, that it is wonderful and a great opportunity to 'work at yourself.'

But you know that already, don't you?
And you know, I believe it isn't a bad thing to feel that your buttons are being pushed.
Being angry cause you feel for instance dis-respected is completely healthy!
Or feeling hurt cause someone calls you a stupid lazy chick. That isn't cool when you are exactly in the middle of your period and was feeling crappy already.

What is it that makes us so irritated?
It aren't these people who push our buttons. We make ourselves irritated! We forget so often to express our true feelings! How often do we directly say to our boss that we don't like it how he treats us? Or do we tell our children we are so tired of their yelling and running around the house and need rest?
When we can express how we feel and share our real needs we are building bridges between our hearts and the heart of the other one.
We aren't responsible how others perceive this, the only thing we can do is be honest to ourselves and others.
This way we take our responsibility back, and empower ourselves. By doing this we also empower the other, cause we aren't giving our power away.

It can be scary to be the real you. Believe me: When you mean what you say from the bottom of your heart you can be sure that expressing yourself will change the entire situation. This way you are holding your light high.

It may take some time for your environment to get used to the new you. They can even feel you are saying it's their fault you feel like this. A good reminder can be: YOU are responsible for YOU. It's not someone else s responsibility how you feel nor is it your responsibility how another feels. You can choose to create a loving safe space where you and another can be the best you that ever lived. Without any attachment to another that can be limiting and with the consciousness that all YOU do has an effect on everything. In respect and freedom is where true empowerment lies.

Heal when there is nothing to heal is like re-creating a 3d reality in a 5d reality. It's like playing a bird in a cage with the door open.
“Shall I make you better” is an old way of communicating. It's widely accepted and even more people love to hear this. Many healers say this without realizing what they are saying. Children are being invited to create a reality where another is responsible for their healing. With all the good intentions of the doctors. I suggest that we learn the children they are the superhero's that can heal themselves.

The new way of healing will be about how YOU can remember that YOU are whole.
It's not about the answers healers give, the guidelines they write or the complete modality s they offer.
It's about YOU creating the answers to YOUR questions.
It's about how YOU creating the modality s that are working for YOU. It's about creating a whole new road yourself where no one has ever gone before.
You are a walking library full of answers to live your best life ever and have everything in you to remember YOU are whole.
It will open millions and millions of doors for others to do the same.
And perhaps one day you will write a book just like me that tells:
'You don't HAVE to read this book. You have all the answers in you. I share my road with you, may it be a reminder on YOUR road.”

With love and gratitude
Elleke.