Many examples shared in the media are showing some sort of polarisation among individuals and groups. It is in most cases that aspect that is being focused upon, rather than demonstrating we are in many cases going after the same dreams and hopes.

Each of us remembers occasions when it is easy to dream, and mutually share it. Let’s listen to three kids going on a vacation: “When I am at our holiday location, I want to swim in the pool”. “And I want to go to the neighbours, and pet the dog”, “And I want to go to the village and eat a strawberry icecream”. There is no fighting, no argument, no fear that one dream or wish is going to jeopardise the other one. These kids share their dreams, and unconsciously start already to paint a joint vision of the future with all desires included.

If we would have more discipline to spend more time and effort, to identify, define and describe the dream and vision we have for ourselves, we can more easily share our ideas and start cooperating with others on a loving, intuitive and creative level.

When people find eachother in a jointly created and shared vision of a desired future reality, diversity of people is a very constructive building block on achieving and realizing the shared vision.

Issues however start when, too quickly, we dive into discussing how-to take next steps. By doing so, before truely communicating with eachother, people tend to find themselves as opponents in a discussion, although their desired outcome may even be very much similar.

The kids in the earlier example could start a fight by moving into an argument about what they should do first when they arrive. Each of them would likely be defending his or her own idea to be done first. Instead these kids wisely choose to see how they can have all desires met, together; first they’ll have a dive into the swimmingpool, then have an icecream, and on their way back from the village they stop by their neighbours and pet and walk the dog.

In our larger reality, we tend to have polarisation and heated discussions caused by people going after their own perception on the to be taken next step. Diversity seems to be an enemy in that case. The more diverse the proposed next steps are, the more fighting occurs. Due to this it seems to be a benefit to have people around them with the same ideas on the options for the next step. Sometimes even confused with the same kind of people. These options are, many times, limited options, as they are the options conceived and therefore limited by a biased human mind, or similar minds.

Then, after fighting with others with an alternative idea of the best option for a next step, and, in ‘best’ cases, after some compromising between multiple of these limited options, the finally selected option is a, more or less creative, construct of a number of limited options. This is per definition less than what could have been the highest possible outcome...

When we spend more time and effort upfront to truely communicate, share and merge our dreams and visions, then we can mutually bond, and come to a shared vision. With benefit of diversity we can then come to a better and more sustainable realization of the shared vision. And when there’s even room for co-creation, the highest possible outcome is very well possible.

You may think, what if we try, but don’t seem to come to a shared vision that includes all shared desires without conflict. In that case, likely, we may not have gone far enough in the process of describing the true essence of our desired realities, without including or implying ways on how to achieve that.

For example, is an essential desire ‘to have my own red electric Mercedes’, or could it be better phrased as ‘to have clean sustainable silent affordable flexible 24/7 transportation’? The second definition includes the first option, and includes also many other potential options to achieve this. By defining a desire in the more narrow way of the first option, i.e. a red electric Mercedes, it implies there’s only room for a solution which is limited, and hence is easier to conflict with other narrow formulated desires in a shared vision.

Looking back at successful creations in our lives, we all have experienced the above, in one way or another. How come it doesn’t work like that all the time? Why don’t we see it when we watch the news? There are more than one reasons. One of them is the illusion we have to defend our ideas on potential next steps, as we can win when we are fighting eachother. This is caused by fear in ourselves.

Let’s overcome our fear of not having our desires met, and open up and communicate with eachother and build a shared vision in which all true desires are met. And then, with the power of diversity, sustainably create the envisioned reality.